A slice of our dinner conversation at our home last night.
Ant Bug: “Dad, you’re the best dad ever. And mom, you’re the best mom ever.”
It was a nice moment. Parenting does have its rewards!
“When, as mothers, you are consistently in the home, at least during the hours the children are predominantly there, you can detect the individual needs of each child and provide ways to satisfy them. Your divinely given instincts help sense a child’s special talents and unique capacities so that you can nurture and strengthen them.
“What enduring fruits will result from seeds of truth you carefully plant and thoughtfully cultivate in the fertile soil of your child’s trusting mind and heart?
“As a mother or father, are you in trouble because the pressures of the world lead you from effectively fulfilling your divine role? Is your life unconsciously fueled with the burning desire for more things that could compromise eternal relationships and the molding of a child’s developing character? You must be willing to forgo personal pleasure and self-interest for family-centered activity, and not turn over to church, school, or society the principal role of fostering a child’s well-rounded development. It takes time, great effort, and significant personal sacrifice to “train up a child in the way he should go.” But where can you find greater rewards for a job well done?
“You may not have the blessing of being raised in an understanding family, yet your use of correct principles will mold, strengthen, and give purpose to your lives.
“Joseph Smith’s inspired statement, “I teach them correct principles, and they govern themselves,” still applies. (Quoted by John Taylor, in Millennial Star, 15 Nov. 1851, p. 339.) The Lord uses that pattern with us. You will find correct principles in the teachings of the Savior, His prophets, and the scriptures—especially the Book of Mormon. While easy to find, true principles are not easy to live until they become an established pattern of life. They will require you to dislodge false ideas. They can cause you wrenching battles within the secret chambers of your heart and decisive encounters to overcome temptation, peer pressure, and the false allure of the “easy way out.” Yet, as you resolutely follow correct principles, you will forge strength of character available to you in times of urgent need. Your consistent adherence to principle overcomes the alluring yet false life-styles that surround you. Your faithful compliance to correct principles will generate criticism and ridicule from others, yet the results are so eternally worthwhile that they warrant your every sacrifice.
“Now, the most important principle I can share: Anchor your life in Jesus Christ, your Redeemer. Make your Eternal Father and his Beloved Son the most important priority in your life—more important than life itself, more important than a beloved companion or children or anyone on earth. Make their will your central desire. Then all that you need for happiness will come to you.”
Richard G. Scott, “The Power of Correct Principles,” Ensign, May 1993, 32
Nancy is a little girl who loves everything fancy: feather boas, high heels, words like exquisite and exceptional, and of course, anything spoken in French. Her life’s lessons come from a family who is not as outwardly fancy as herself, but she learns that “I love you” is fancy in itself.
If you have little girls in your home, then Fancy Nancy is a must read. The Ant Bug and I have enjoyed each of these delightful stories.
Here she is one afternoon, dressed to the nines like Fancy Nancy, complete with her own posh puppy.
“I know it is hard for you young mothers to believe that almost before you can turn around the children will be gone and you will be alone with your husband. You had better be sure you are developing the kind of love and friendship that will be delightful and enduring. Let the children learn from your attitude that he is important. Encourage him. Be kind. It is a rough world, and he, like everyone else, is fighting to survive. Be cheerful. Don’t be a whiner.”
Marjorie Pay Hinckley, Small and Simple Things (2003), 31.
I just discovered that The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has released a new manual to be used in the nursery. The manual is geared toward teaching children ages 18 months to 3 years.
It is beautiful! I am so excited to use this resource in my family. It almost makes me want to be a nursery worker again.
You can view the manual and download the lessons here.
I recently discovered the Simple Mom blogger, and I am loving her. She thinks like I do, or actually, like I aspire to think. Many of her posts have really hit home with me and have inspired me to better: better mom, better wife, better organizer.
I read all about her Home Management Notebooks and have started my own. Isn’t it a pretty green?
Here is a snapshot of my to-do list, which was embellished by the Ant Bug.
It feels great to have a functional to-do list again, but I do have to control myself to make sure that the list doesn’t get out of hand. So this post by Simple Mom is a great reminder for me.
She says “My main job is to parent, not to get my to-do list done. Remind yourself today that there are more important things in life than getting things done.”
“Of course, there is need for discipline with families. But discipline with severity, discipline with cruelty, inevitably leads not to correction but rather to resentment and bitterness. It cures nothing and only aggravates the problem. It is self-defeating. The Lord, in setting forth the spirit of governance in His Church, has also set forth the spirit of governance in the home in these great words of revelation:
“No power or influence can or ought to be maintained … , only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned; …
“Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy;
“That he may know that thy faithfulness is stronger than the cords of death” (D&C 121:41, 43–44).
Gordon B. Hinckley, “These, Our Little Ones,” Ensign, Dec 2007, 4–9.
One tradition I have wanted to adopt for my children is their own special snuggly blanket. The only problem is that I am not much of a sewer, so taking on a project like sewing a quilt is a little bit daunting. Thankfully, when the Ant Bug was about 6 months old, my talented sister-in-law walked me through the process of making a baby quilt. Here is the finished product:
The Ant Bug has loved it, and she still sleeps with it every night. In her words, this is how she feels about her special blanket: “gdnbvcnvhvlffgfkkfjfmfmjff,jfmj,,gh,h’;jj;h;h’h;j”H’j;j’hljkjkhgkjhjgkjgjghjhghjghjkhjhgyth;hg;h.lhglhlhlhlhlhlghl./
dnmbdndnmfnmfghfgbfhfjghjgjhmfggmgjjgghhjhjkgnmm;kklolhkhghkj”
Now that we live in Florida, I knew I was on my own to make a quilt for the B. Using the previous quilt as my pattern, and thanks to my good friend who loaned me her sewing machine, I was able to make a quilt.  Now, I am really not a seamstress, and I wouldn’t want anyone to look too closely at my stitches, but it turned out decently well.
“Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind. It places her who honors its holy calling and service next to the angels.”
First Presidency Statement in Conference Report, Oct 1942, 761.