FHE Lesson: Joseph Smith

My husband came home from work yesterday and said “We should do a Family Home Evening lesson on Joseph Smith”. Since it was 5:45 p.m. and I still didn’t have a solid plan for FHE (yes, things are not always well planned around here!), I jumped on the idea. It was good night to talk about Joseph Smith, since June 27th marks the anniversary of his martyrdom.

After a quick search on Sugardoodle, I had a fun activity: Joseph Smith Tic Tac Toe. You can play the game in the regular tic tac toe fashion, but to place a marker on a square each team must first answer a trivia question about Joseph Smith. Sample questions: “What part of Joseph’s body was operated on when he was 7 years old? His leg” and “What river was Joseph baptized in? Susquehanna”.

I knew that my children wouldn’t really know the answers to start with, but my husband and I played on opposite teams and coached our partners in the answers. It was a fun way to learn about the Prophet, and by the end of the evening we had all learned a few things. The evening was complete with the singing of “A Poor Wayfaring Man of Grief” and “Praise to the Man”.

“Praise to the man who communed with Jehovah! Jesus annointed that Prophet and Seer.
Blessed to open the last dispensation, Kings shall extol him, and nations revere.
Hail to the Prophet, ascended to heaven! Traitors and tyrants now fight him in vain.
Mingling with Gods, he can plan for his brethren; Death cannot conquer the hero again.”

Another great resource is this summary of highlights from the life of Joseph Smith, as printed in The Friend magazine.

While we’re on the topic of Joseph Smith, last Friday for our date night my husband and I watched Emma Smith: My Story. The movie is well done, and a good way to learn more about Emma and Joseph. You can watch the movie right now for free on Hulu, or I’ve included it below.

Sacrifice brings happiness

“The family by its very nature is an institution based upon righteous self-denial and sacrifice. It is not an individualistic or self-centered organization, but a highly cooperative and other-centered institution. Successful families require that men and women make substantial and long-term sacrifices of their time, money, and personal fulfillment in order to dedicate their efforts to rearing the next generation. Selfishness in any form or degree weakens the bonds that hold families together. The rise of selfishness in our society is the fundamental underlying trend that undermines families and makes successful marriages so difficult. Many today find it irrational to devote so much time and energy to the welfare of the next generation, but if this commitment is not deeply rooted in society, civilization will decline and perish, while children grow up in a moral wasteland, confused, unguided, and unloved.

“Moreover, the sacrifices that fathers and mothers make for their children ultimately will result in the greatest possible happiness for those making the sacrifices. In all of human experience, there are no joys more tender, no love more sweet, no fulfillment higher than that found in the family. Those who honor the calling of righteous parenthood will find their souls refined, their hearts purified, and their minds enlightened by the most important lessons of life. They will rise to far greater heights of happiness than those who engage in the narrow and ultimately unsatisfying pursuit of self.”

Bruce D. Porter, “Defending the family in a troubled world”, The Ensign, June 2011.

Our Summer Schedule

The Ant Bug graduated from Kindergarten this week. Let the summer fun begin! We have all been looking forward to summertime, and the increased hours available for water fun (what else can we do in the Florida heat?). However, for the last few weeks I have also been thinking a lot about our daily life, the things we want/need to accomplish each day, and how we can all stay engaged in good activities and refrain from squabbling and whining.

This year we are finally at a place in our lives (the kids and myself) where I can lay out a predictable daily routine. The biggest help is that Little Boy Z is very predictable in his sleeping schedule. He takes a morning nap beginning at 9:30-ish for 1.5 hours, then another nap at 3pm for about 1.5 hours. Monday night I sat down and created a daily schedule, working around sleep time. We have tried it for two days, and I like it so far. We still have a few kinks to work out but the girls are responding well. I love having a schedule to rely on, and children really thrive on routines.

The trickiest part for me to figure out is the time slot from 3-5pm. I need a few minutes of quiet time with Little Boy Z to get him ready for his nap, but I also needed something for my girls to do. In the past they have watched a show, but I wanted to avoid that so early in the afternoon because they seem to have a hard time turning the show off at the required time, and then I have grumpy children to deal with for awhile.

So… enter the “listening and coloring segment”. The girls get to choose something to listen to (like an audiobook or classical music or children’s recording), and to keep their hands busy they can color a picture while they listen. So far, so good. Yesterday they listened to Peter and the Wolf (we’ve been listening to this a lot lately) and drew some great pictures.

Peter and the Wolf, by the Ant Bug

Today they listened to a Winnie the Pooh story CD we had checked out of the library.

Winnie the Pooh, by the Sweet Bee

Winnie the Pooh, by the Ant Bug

In the future we have plans to do the Carnival of the Animals, and other classical music. I will have to see what audio books I can find at the library. Any suggestions?

After listening and coloring comes quiet time. Once my kids outgrew their naps, I haven’t really been able to implement a quiet time. I am trying again, with a few challenges to overcome. The first is space: ideally, each child should be in their own room. But my girls share a room, so the best solution I can come up with is for them to alternate days, one girl upstairs in the bedroom and the other downstairs in the living room with me. But, we also have to deal with some fears about being alone upstairs, so we are still figuring this one out. I’m hoping that this will motivate them a little “After you do your quiet time in your room, you can pick the show to watch” (for 30 minutes).

So in case this might inspire you, here is our daily schedule. Keep in mind that times are not set in stone (you won’t catch me waking up a child who wants to sleep in past 7 a.m.!), but this gives us a good guide and order to follow.

7:00-7:30 a.m.                 Morning Chores #1: Wake up, get dressed, make bed, put away pajamas, say prayers, read scriptures

7:30 a.m.                           Family Prayer and Scripture Study

7:40 a.m.                           Breakfast

8:00-8:30 a.m.                Morning Chores #2: Dishes, brush teeth, brush hair, piano practice (Ant Bug), name writing (Sweet Bee)

8:30-9:00 a.m.                Free play / Mom shower

9:00-9:20 a.m.                Clean up living room

9:30-10 a.m.                    Screen time (Z nap)

10-10:15 a.m.                   Snack time

10:15-10:30 a.m.             Daily jobs

10:30-12 noon                 Creative time

12 noon                             Lunch and clean up

1:00-3:00 p.m.                Out and about

3:00-3:15 p.m.                 Snack time

3:15-4:00 p.m.                 Quiet time (Z nap)

4:00-4:30 p.m.                Screen time

4:30-5:30 p.m.                Creative time

5:30 p.m.                          Evening chores #1: Set table, empty recycling, wash hands

5:45 p.m.                          Dinner and clean up

6:50-7:20 p.m.                Bath time

7:20-7:30 p.m.                Snack time

7:30-7:45 p.m.                Evening chores #2: Brush teeth, bathroom, pajamas

7:45-8:00 p.m.               Family prayer, read aloud chapter books

8:00-8:30 p.m.              Quiet time in bed

8:30 p.m.                        Lights out

Just a few more notes:

“Creative Time” is my code word for craft projects, school activities, workbooks, painting, stories, playdough, science experiments, board games, etc. I want to make a list of all of our ideas for easy inspiration, but that is still on my to-do list for the week. Creative time will also invariably include free play time too, so I have some time slots in the day to do exciting things like clean the bathroom or sweep the floor.

“Out and about” is our time to go to the library, swimming, grocery shopping, errands etc. Sometimes our out and about adventures start a little earlier and involve a picnic lunch, so we adjust the schedule as needed.

Also, I teach piano lessons on the side, so on lesson days our afternoon schedule will look a little different for the girls. (You can check out my brand new Piano Fundamentals blog here-getting this site up and running has made me a little absent from Nurture Mama lately, but “to everything there is a season”, right?!)

I can say more about out chore system if anyone is interested, but I think that is more than enough for this post!